i've moved!



same me, same missives, new web address.

please update your rss feeds, bookmarks, rolodex, blackberries, blueberries and mental/mnemonic filing systems.

i don't know why you say goodbye, i say hello.

jeremy made me start this blog. he thought it would be a great idea to have someplace to put down all my strange thoughts and ideas. i was resistant, at first, as i often am with ideas that aren't my own.

but i contested and as usual, my darling husband was right.

i started off with drawings and stories, how-to posts on lemonade, pickle fishing and the construction of an awesome fort. i've tried all different things - stop motion movies, little cartoons, harmonica concerts, making whale shapes out of sticks - but i've always come back to this place of narration, observation, things i think about the world and ways in which i live within it.

i opened my shop and soon after felt a shift in my writing. not better, i'd say, that's dangerous and presumptuous, but as though i'd found my voice. as though i'd slipped into a chair that i wanted to spend not a morning in, but whole afternoons and evenings. slowly rocking, slowly thinking, always writing.

it felt like time to think about getting a website, something of my own, that would bring together the old and the new. the branding of my shop, the tone of my words, a simpler template where i could really hone in on the parts of my writing that i've come to treasure most - poetry, philosophy, photography, thoughts.

and so without further adieu, i'm proud to present to you idreamofdarwin.com.

i've decided not to migrate arm circles material over to the new space, (sometimes it's nice to just let go), but i won't disable or re-route it either. from time to time it will be good to check back on the old girl, reassured in the knowledge that she's still there.

to you, loyal reader, for being on the other side of this computer, for hearing what i have to say, for offering words back in exchange, i thank you. let's take this next step together. i think we're both ready.

xo

come over, you can listen to our radio.


i found this fine specimen beside the garbage dumpster. it was sitting there, unassuming, as we took out the recycling. its simplicity and single functionality appealed to me right away.

it doesn't play cds or mp3s or lps, just the radio in fm or am. it has a knob for tuning and a smaller knob for volume and a handle, for carrying the good tunes around.


i've been calling it my boom box and holding impromptu dance parties in the living room. jeremy, always up for a jig, is happy to oblige.

who would get rid of something so cool? maybe the previous owners were exhausted from too many dance parties of their own. we have to get some work done around here! get to business! get that boom box out of here!

now it's our turn. thank you.

morning commute



i'm going to share something personal

my mom and dad divorced when i was 5. when i was 11 he stopped coming for visits and it's a moment i still remember - standing in the sunroom with my weekend bags packed, waiting for a man who would never come. i wonder how long i actually waited but in memory, a tragically romantic thing, it was forever.

with my grandfather, my dad's dad, i kept a yearly correspondence. cards and letters, christmas' and birthdays. we never spoke of my dad, (fear? the bond of mutual silence?) but it was comforting to know there was a tie to that side of my biology. a leaf on the branch of the other half of the tree.

not long ago, (5 years? 10?) i decided to ask my grandfather about my dad and was surprised to learn he'd alienated that part of the family as well. the imagination is a wild, rampant thing and i'd just assumed, that all these years, he was a full and active member of a family i wasn't part of. maybe he'd had other kids. maybe they had large, summer barbeques. maybe sometimes he asked about me. maybe sometimes he'd just wonder in silence.

to learn that he'd chosen to isolate himself from all family, not just me, felt in many ways like a relief. it wasn't personal, it was who he was. it may have been the first (and last?) time i felt an invisible connection with him. i understood that need for isolation. the desire to separate from the clan. to identify one's self on one's own merits. i thought of men going off into the wild - farley mowatt, chris mccandless, the guy from legends of the fall - romantic notions of men closing their hearts to find their souls. i made a kind of peace with the mystery. with the imagined poetry.

and then in december of 2010, just before the holidays, a letter came from my uncle. my dad was dying of colon cancer and had decided to reach out to the family he had shunned, to make good with the years of silence. i felt many things, to be sure, but prevailing was a sense of entitlement to an unhurried grace period, during which i could think through, in my own way, how i wished to proceed.

i talked to my mom. i talked to my step dad. i asked for their advice and support. i talked to jeremy. i talked to steph. i sat in silence with myself feeling surprisingly calm and clear-headed. i kept waiting for an emotional outburst, a dramatic desire to see my dad, to talk to him, to ask him questions, to demand answers, but nothing of the sort came and the honest truth seemed to be that despite this potentially life changing news, my life wasn't changing.

i decided that i was comfortable opening the lines of communication with him and, being a writer, sat down to pen the first side of a conversation with my estranged father.

at first the exercise was kind of fun like writing to a mysterious pen pal. my name is jenn sorrell! i am 30 years old! these are my interests! here are my memories! this is my life! but it needed something else, something truthful about my feelings towards him. something honest, but fair.

and so i wrote that i harbour no ill will. that i forgive him. that i don't pretend to understand the reasons why he did the things he did. that i'm sorry that he's sick but that i am not looking for a father. that the beauty in my life has been this - where he left off, others came in.

i sent photos of myself - our wedding, me camping - a return address and a sincere hope that we could start from here, from nothing, from not knowing each other, from not expecting anything, from honesty, from zero. i never heard back.

my uncle tried to pressure me into calling or going to visit. he said it was unreasonable for me to expect that a dying man would be able to write me back. he said i was being punative. the more he pushed, the more strongly i felt about my decision. this is something i had thought about at great lengths, after all. this is something i'd considered from outside of myself. what would i tell me as a friend? as a mentor? what would old me tell young me, looking back? the answer was always the same. i had done what i felt comfortable doing and i had tried to do it with honesty, compassion and grace.

was i proud? was i selfish? would i, as my uncle said and said again, regret my decision? i can't know the true answer to these questions but i do know indecision can be crippling and i stepped out of that fog with confidence. i made a decision, my decision, and i have not looked back.

my dad is as much of a mystery to me in death as he was in life however it is comforting to know that, upon receiving my letter, i was no longer a mystery to him. i hope that brought him some semblance of peace knowing that his daughter was happy and loved.

for our families, even if not by our own hands, it's all we can ever hope for.

remember wales?


me too.

remember when you said to put my arms up because it will feel so good, and then i did?

it was like surrendering. but in the most liberating way.

molding mountains


i made a plasticine picture of mount everest. it's very realistic with the little tents at base camp and the prayer flags strung up and the khumbu icefall, all pocked with crevasses and snow.


it seems much less daunting in miniature. maybe molding is the safe approach to mountains! no frostbite or altitude issues! though your hands will smell of plasticine, it's a small price to pay for sculpting the summit.

conversations (the alias)


me: what would your name be if you were a photographer? photographer joe?

j: uh, just still jeremy?

queen anne's lace


such a pretty, parasol-esque flower. each of the little florets are microcosms of the whole and for the root, a delightfully small, cream carrot.


it's an invasive species which means it's your civic duty to pick as many as possible, put them in a green glass vase, and set them cheerily on your open window ledge.

thursday morning

we got up early, we always do.

i had yogurt and a nearly overripe banana. a tall glass of water. a deep breath.

jeremy had cereal and the sound it made as he poured it into his bowl was nearly musical in the atmospheric quiet of the morning. like little chimes. or little drops into a little void.

we went for a jog. 50 minutes at a decent pace. it's not my legs that feel tired in the end but my heart and my lungs. it's pleasing to think about them being exercised. pulled and kneaded into acceptance. the flush of new oxygen coursing throughout by way of new blood, inwards outwards, outwards in.

back home we stretched. showered. blended fruit with milk and a scoop of peanut butter.

danced slowly, languidly, naturally in each others' arms to a vintage country tune.

said i love you. said good bye. thought of love as the ultimate all-time thing.

especially on a thursday.